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Having been in the Toastmasters Communication & Leadership Program for over 21 years, Rae is passionate about sharing information to help others develop their skills. 

This section hosts articles related to public speaking, writing artilces/webcopy & presentation skill development. 

Enjoy the articles and feel free to comment. Keep the discussion going.

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There are at least two types of speaking to give consideration: prepared speaking & impromptu.

While creating a ‘prepared’ speech, you have to keep in mind the audience that you will be speaking to. What will their level of comprehension be? While the simple formula of K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Sasquatch) might be appropriate in many situations, it wouldn’t be if you were speaking to an audience of educated people. Educated in the sense that they are knowledgeable about your topic. They, would likely be offended.

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Disclaimer: I have Aspergers and ADHD.

I approached a girl at a party last night. I initiated conversation with her, but there were frequent awkward pauses. You see whenever she responded to my questions; my mind would go blank, I would reply “okay”. Also, I was drunk as well. What is wrong with me?


Addressing your last question first “What is wrong with me?” Short answer … ‘nothing is wrong with you!” Your brain is just wired a little different than others. That doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong. However, it does present challenges that others don’t face in life.

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The short and quick answer to this question in my mind is that you find the ideal speed for speaking in public by trial and error.

As North Americans, it is often said that we speak at a rate of between 125 and 175 words per minute. The challenge is that we don’t know how fast our audience is capable of not only hearing us, but understanding us.

Speak too slow and the audience gets bored and restless. Speak too fast and you start to lose audience members that can’t keep up. They get frustrated and turn you out.

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vision definition buttonThis question might be better asked as can visualization help us to improve our public speaking skills?

Visualization is a technique often used by high-performance coaches for training athletes and other individuals who are actively trying to gain a competitive edge.

There is a technique behind visualizing. It is not likely to be successful if one focuses on negative aspects of their performance. Examples: focusing on their fear, focusing on the possibility of failure, not having  a clear vision of the objective.

I was listening to a high-performance coach who was a guest on a podcast focusing on public speaking. He had worked with Michael Phelps in preparation for the Olympics. He related that whereas regular competitors at that level of competition would be in the water in the morning and the evening i.e. two practices every day. Phelps on the other hand, would only have one swimming practice in the morning. For the second session, instead of being in the pool swimming, he would focus on the videos of his practice. He would focus on every single stroke and visualize on how he could improve his performance, stroke by stroke. That’s quite a bit of devotion.

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discussion between two 3d charactersThanks for an interesting question. I have always thought of communication in terms of being interpersonal or non-interpersonal i.e. to everybody but nobody specific, not in terms of personal or impersonal.  

BusinessDictionary.com defines impersonal communication as follows:

A type of communicationor interaction that is based specifically on socialroles, such as communication between asales representativeand apotential customer. The manner of communication is informal andsuperficial,coveringtopicsnecessary to instigate asaleor similar transaction.

I’m a freshman in college. I have problems speaking in class/public. Maybe I’m too Shy. My heart beats fast I start blushing and can feel the heat. I’m afraid to tell anyone because they think I'm dumb. My family always make fun of me because of this and tells me that I should be like my siblings.


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I believe you have an excellent response to your question from Lovelyn Bettison and I’m struggling to add to her answer.


No, you are definitely not alone in your shyness. The latest statistics from the Shyness Institute say that more than 50% of Americans indicated in a poll that they experience shyness in certain social situations.


Shyness and fear of public speaking, while related, are two different scenarios. To resolve either of them at a basic level, both require specific skill development, which in turn increases self-confidence and subsequently decreases fear. You can be skilled at public speaking, yet still be shy in social situations. I know this is true for me.

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Thanks for an interesting question.

According to BusinessDictionary.com informal communication is a casual form of information sharing typically used in personal conversations with friends or family members. Within a business environment, informal communication is sometimes called the grapevine and might be observed occurring in conversations, electronic mails, text messages and phone calls between socializing employees.

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According to Businesstopia, alinearmodel, communication is considered one way process where sender is the only one who sends message and receiver doesn't give feedback or response. The message signal is encoded and transmitted through channel in presence of noise.

I’m not sure about the latter portion of that definition but I’ve always known it as one-way communication.

Examples are as follows:

I gave a humorous public speech and I said “men photoshop biceps & women photoshop breasts”. After the speech I realized how bad my thoughts are. I felt I should have avoided talking about Breasts. Like this what topics should I never talk about or rules of public speaking (never hurt any 1 , etc.)

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I’m curious to know if what you describe as your bad thoughts were initiated by second-guessing yourself or by feedback from your audience? Also, is it actually true that men photoshop biceps & women photoshop breasts? If it is a fact, then how can it be bad to talk about it?

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The answer to this question likely is determined by how you are using the word ‘assertive’. If you are using it as a generic phrase to describe becoming a better speaker, then there’s likely lots of articles on the subject here on Quora.

Now if you are actually using the word assertive in its true sense, there may not be so many articles. I haven’t checked, but in studying the craft of public speaking over the years I really haven’t heard it asked before if at all.

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