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Personal Development

This section includes articles related to personal development. As Rae has journeyed through life, he has learned a few things along the way. Many of them were learned the hard way.  

Enjoy the articles and feel free to comment. Keep the discussion going. 

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Despite the spate of affirmative responses to your question, I don’t think that anyone can give you a definitive yes or no answer.

On one hand, you have a mental illness. That does not define who you are, it is just something you happen to have. Mental illness is on a continuum. Some days it will have the better of you [or worse] and some days you will have the better.

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I think that ‘paranoia’ is a term that is bandied about a little too freely these days. It has become an everyday word to describe what is really a serious condition. People that are truly paranoid are not happy campers and they tend to create turmoil in the people in their lives.

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Recognizing that you have a persistent problem causing you anxiety, is a good first step. My short answer is to suggest that you seek help from a mental health professional. Family doctors are usually the gatekeeper to the healthcare system but unfortunately, many are not all that sympathetic when it comes to mental health issues. If you have a local mental health department I would suggest seeing if they have an Intake Worker or an Urgent Response person that looks after walk-ins from the community. Seeking professional opinion would help you determine if this is a serious problem requiring treatment.

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Thanks for the A2A on the question “Do you ever fake laugh during conversation?”

I thought about this question for the good part of a day as it left me self-analyzing, do I or don’t I?

To the best of my knowledge, I do not. To do so would be inconsistent with my current base personality.

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For instance, are there some coping strategies that people use right at the time when other people are going after them?

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To start with, perhaps these individuals are habitually treated as being inferior because they are inferior.

I’ll let that statement sit there for a moment.

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How many, if any, people do you completely, 100% trust?

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Short answer: one. My wife of 38 years. Yet, at the same time, by some people’s standards, she is probably the person in the world that I should mistrust the most. She knows my deep dark secrets, even the ones I don’t know about. She knows my bad habits, even if I don’t think that they are all that bad. And she knows all the stupid mistakes I have made throughout my life, yes they were stupid!

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There appears to be two parts to this question. The first part addressing fear, appears to be clear. The second part I’m not sure about. I’m going to interpret it as “even if I don’t want what society expects?”

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The question might be better asked as “how can I respond when someone praises me?”

A simple definition of praise comes from Merriam-Webster Dictionary is: to say or write good things about (someone or something) : to express approval of (someone or something): to express thanks to or love and respect for (God)

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This question doesn’t provide a lot of details which explains why the answers are all over the place.

My first question to you would be … “why would you want to?” Have you been told by someone that your ego is too big? Or perhaps you are full of yourself?

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Some advice makes me feel like a robot following their instructions to be human during conversations and suggested techniques to talk and gain confidence will just be rehearsed actions that isn't the real me. At the same time I feel like I don't have a personality so I'd gain one if I do change.

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Short answer to your question … yes, it most likely would, if the change you are referring to is only a cosmetic change to your personality i.e. a cover-up.

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