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Rae Stonehouse

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

You're Hired! Job Search Strategies That Work: Available as an easily downloadable e-book or as an on-line e-course. 

Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

Rae’s social … are you?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaeStonehousehttp://twitter.com/RaeStonehouse

Linkedin? Rae is http://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehousehttp://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehouse

Copyright 2018 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.


To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com.

as originally posted on Quora.com

lWhat are humorous topics to give a speech on, answered by Rae StonehouseI don’t believe that there is a master list of topics that would be considered humorous. The challenge is that humour is not universal. What is funny in one part of the world may be offensive in another. Even among people that know each other, one person may find something funny, while another may not.

I try to use humour whenever I can in my presentations. My humour tends to be spontaneous. I find something funny to share in situations as they occur. You might consider it to be situational humour. I find it very difficult to craft a humorous speech.

A formula that I learned long ago for creating humorous speeches is as follows: PMF+T=H. Personal Misfortune + Time =Humour. These are stories about disasters in our lives, situations that were out of our control and were likely quite stressful at the time. As time passes, our memories evolve and we tend to forget the pain and other emotions that we experienced at the time. These are the stories that we often tell when our families get together, or perhaps at work over coffee. Sometimes we even start to embellish our story so that in time they become quite humorous and may even contain a grain of truth.

Some advise that I learned from a fellow Toastmaster many years ago was “Never let the truth get in the way of telling a good story!”

Thursday, 18 August 2016 02:13

What is a non technical presentation?

as originally answered on Quora.com

What is a non-technical speech as answered by Rae Stonehouse.As far as I know, a non technical presentation is one where you create it for delivery to a non technical audience.

It could be a presentation about a subject that is quite technical and only easily understood by someone with a background in that particular topic. The task is to take the technical content and recreate it for the so-called layman i.e. someone who doesn’t have a background in the particular subject.

Nothing prevents you from using modern technology such as a data projector, lap top and a PowerPoint presentation. However, they shouldn’t be the focus of your presentation, the content should be.

As originally answered on Quora.com

Its interesting that you refer to the art of public speaking. There really is art involved in being an effective, dynamic public speaker.

Like any other endeavour in life, one has to learn to walk before they run. The same thing applies to becoming an effective public speaker. You need to spend time with the fundamentals of public speaking. These include: speech organization; how to create a speech that people will want to listen to; how to paint pictures with words; developing your vocal variety, stage management and many more. All these lead to developing your self-confidence.

  As originally answered on Quora.com

At the risk of suggesting something that you may have already thought of or someone else has suggested, I would go with a topic that you already know something about and that you are passionate about. This takes a lot of pressure off of you with having to come up with a new topic and becoming a quick expert on it.

You say that you know that the interview is to test your presentation skills. ‘Test’ is kind of a vague term. Test, to me, would seem to indicate that the interviewers have a predetermined set of criteria to test you against. That leads to a pass fail result. Perhaps thinking in terms of assessing you, may be helpful.

There is a difference. If you are being assessed by a panel of interviewers, there is the possibility that not all of the interviewers are good at presenting themselves. They are relying on the opinions of those that are skilled. The interviewers are tasked with choosing the right candidate for the job. This presentation is only one part of the interview process. It might be helpful to consider the entire interview process as one big presentation.

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How to Say It? Good question! The number four project is designed to help you experience the difference between crafting your speech for the spoken work verses the written word. Is there really a difference? Most certainly!

When you write prose, you use punctuation marks in your story to let your reader know extra information that they need to understand the written material. A ? lets the reader know that a question is being asked. An ! at the end of a sentence would indicate that the preceding sentence has some importance. As readers, if we aren’t clear or are confused about something we have just read, we can usually easily go back and reread the previous section for clarification.

as originally answered on Quora.com ...

 Should I overcome my speech anxiety? Answered by Rae Stonehouse.Whenever someone prefaces a question with the word ‘should’, they are in essence asking for permission. You don’t need permission to take actions to alleviate any fears or inhibitions that you have, including public speaking. You have it within you to do something about it, if you choose to.

This is a decision you have to make yourself. Anytime that you are talking to someone else besides yourself, you are public speaking. I don’t believe it is a matter of determining whether you really need public speaking skills or not in life.

Simply put, if you have advanced public speaking skills and the accompanying self-confidence, opportunities in life will likely present themselves. If you don’t have either the speaking skills or the self-confidence, the opportunities may present themselves, but odds are you won’t be able to take advantage of them.

I know this to be true because I have made the decision to conquer my fear of public speaking. Throughout my life I have taken on leadership positions in organizations that I belonged to. Getting the positions was fairly easy. I suspect that most people were too afraid to take on the roles. The problem was that to be effective in the leadership roles and to move on to the next level, I needed advanced communication skills and I didn’t have them. I was terrified of speaking in public.

Monday, 15 August 2016 01:50

What distinguishes a good speech?

As originally answered at Quora.com ...

What distinguishes a good speech? Article by Rae Stonehouse.Simply put, a good speech is one that achieves its purpose. I will add the caveat that it is one that has been received by the majority of your listening audience as being good.

As a speaker, we have quite a bit of control as to the preparation, the organization and the delivery of the speech. We strive to be present and in the moment to deliver the best speech that we can, or at least we should be.

We don’t have any control as to how the audience, specifically individual members of the audience, receive and perceive our message. From our perspective as speakers from the stage, we may see lots of smiling faces that seem to be hanging on every word we say. However, in any audience, there will be people who are not ‘in the moment.” They may be focussing on something all together different. Perhaps a personal crisis going on in their life.

They may even have taken offense at a point or a comment that you made and are turning it over and over in their head. The final decision is up to them as to whether they believe that you delivered a great speech, or not.

 As originally answered on Quora.com

Disinguished Toastmaster PinI can’t imagine there to be any other answer than “of course!”

One needs only to look at the yearly journey towards the coveted title of World Champion of Public Speaking. The title says it all “World Champion.” Everyone who competes at any level of the competition, from the club through to the world championship level has been a member of good standing of Toastmasters i.e. they are a product of the Toastmasters program.

Originally answered on Quora.com …



Mr Emcee aka Rae Stonehouse. Author of E=Emcee Squared:Tips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.This looks like a fairly simple question however, to provide a response of value is considerably more challenging.



Serving effectively as an Emcee at any event, requires quite a few specific skills. You need to be a good organizer, confident public speaker, systematic thinker, have good time management skills, be assertive and be a good problem solver to mention a few.

Monday, 15 August 2016 00:27

Does Toastmasters teach social skills?

Originally answered in Quora…


Does Toastmasters Teach Social Skills? Article by Rae Stonehouse DTM.I’m going to take a contrary view as some others have and say “No, it does not.” However, Toastmasters does provide an amazing amount of opportunities to practice them.

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