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Rae Stonehouse

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

You're Hired! Job Search Strategies That Work: Available as an easily downloadable e-book or as an on-line e-course. 

Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

Rae’s social … are you?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaeStonehousehttp://twitter.com/RaeStonehouse

Linkedin? Rae is http://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehousehttp://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehouse

Copyright 2018 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.


To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com.

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There are at least two types of speaking to give consideration: prepared speaking & impromptu.

While creating a ‘prepared’ speech, you have to keep in mind the audience that you will be speaking to. What will their level of comprehension be? While the simple formula of K.I.S.S. (Keep It Simple Sasquatch) might be appropriate in many situations, it wouldn’t be if you were speaking to an audience of educated people. Educated in the sense that they are knowledgeable about your topic. They, would likely be offended.

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Disclaimer: I have Aspergers and ADHD.

I approached a girl at a party last night. I initiated conversation with her, but there were frequent awkward pauses. You see whenever she responded to my questions; my mind would go blank, I would reply “okay”. Also, I was drunk as well. What is wrong with me?


Addressing your last question first “What is wrong with me?” Short answer … ‘nothing is wrong with you!” Your brain is just wired a little different than others. That doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong. However, it does present challenges that others don’t face in life.

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Despite the spate of affirmative responses to your question, I don’t think that anyone can give you a definitive yes or no answer.

On one hand, you have a mental illness. That does not define who you are, it is just something you happen to have. Mental illness is on a continuum. Some days it will have the better of you [or worse] and some days you will have the better.

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I think that ‘paranoia’ is a term that is bandied about a little too freely these days. It has become an everyday word to describe what is really a serious condition. People that are truly paranoid are not happy campers and they tend to create turmoil in the people in their lives.

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Recognizing that you have a persistent problem causing you anxiety, is a good first step. My short answer is to suggest that you seek help from a mental health professional. Family doctors are usually the gatekeeper to the healthcare system but unfortunately, many are not all that sympathetic when it comes to mental health issues. If you have a local mental health department I would suggest seeing if they have an Intake Worker or an Urgent Response person that looks after walk-ins from the community. Seeking professional opinion would help you determine if this is a serious problem requiring treatment.

Monday, 24 October 2016 02:16

Do you ever fake laugh during conversation?

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Thanks for the A2A on the question “Do you ever fake laugh during conversation?”

I thought about this question for the good part of a day as it left me self-analyzing, do I or don’t I?

To the best of my knowledge, I do not. To do so would be inconsistent with my current base personality.

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For instance, are there some coping strategies that people use right at the time when other people are going after them?


To start with, perhaps these individuals are habitually treated as being inferior because they are inferior.

I’ll let that statement sit there for a moment.

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How many, if any, people do you completely, 100% trust?


Short answer: one. My wife of 38 years. Yet, at the same time, by some people’s standards, she is probably the person in the world that I should mistrust the most. She knows my deep dark secrets, even the ones I don’t know about. She knows my bad habits, even if I don’t think that they are all that bad. And she knows all the stupid mistakes I have made throughout my life, yes they were stupid!

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There appears to be two parts to this question. The first part addressing fear, appears to be clear. The second part I’m not sure about. I’m going to interpret it as “even if I don’t want what society expects?”

Monday, 24 October 2016 01:56

How should I react when someone praises me?

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The question might be better asked as “how can I respond when someone praises me?”

A simple definition of praise comes from Merriam-Webster Dictionary is: to say or write good things about (someone or something) : to express approval of (someone or something): to express thanks to or love and respect for (God)

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