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Rae Stonehouse

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

You're Hired! Job Search Strategies That Work: Available as an easily downloadable e-book or as an on-line e-course. 

Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

Rae’s social … are you?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaeStonehousehttp://twitter.com/RaeStonehouse

Linkedin? Rae is http://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehousehttp://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehouse

Copyright 2018 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.


To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.com.

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Thanks for an interesting question.

According to BusinessDictionary.com informal communication is a casual form of information sharing typically used in personal conversations with friends or family members. Within a business environment, informal communication is sometimes called the grapevine and might be observed occurring in conversations, electronic mails, text messages and phone calls between socializing employees.

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According to Businesstopia, alinearmodel, communication is considered one way process where sender is the only one who sends message and receiver doesn't give feedback or response. The message signal is encoded and transmitted through channel in presence of noise.

I’m not sure about the latter portion of that definition but I’ve always known it as one-way communication.

Examples are as follows:

I gave a humorous public speech and I said “men photoshop biceps & women photoshop breasts”. After the speech I realized how bad my thoughts are. I felt I should have avoided talking about Breasts. Like this what topics should I never talk about or rules of public speaking (never hurt any 1 , etc.)

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I’m curious to know if what you describe as your bad thoughts were initiated by second-guessing yourself or by feedback from your audience? Also, is it actually true that men photoshop biceps & women photoshop breasts? If it is a fact, then how can it be bad to talk about it?

Monday, 10 October 2016 19:37

How can I be a more assertive speaker?

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The answer to this question likely is determined by how you are using the word ‘assertive’. If you are using it as a generic phrase to describe becoming a better speaker, then there’s likely lots of articles on the subject here on Quora.

Now if you are actually using the word assertive in its true sense, there may not be so many articles. I haven’t checked, but in studying the craft of public speaking over the years I really haven’t heard it asked before if at all.

Monday, 10 October 2016 19:30

How can I be a sharp communicator?

My mind thinks really quickly but my mouth seems to be really slow at choosing words to say and speaking. It's really affecting my interviews as people think I'm slow and dunce. Is their a way to at least give the impression of being a quick and sharp communicator?

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Tongue TiedThe best way to give the impression that you are quick and a sharp communicator is to actually become one.

Before I get started though, I want to comment on your desire to be ‘quick.’ There is no rule in life or communication saying that you have to be quick thinking. Many great leaders and communicators give thought before they answer. They aren’t necessarily slow thinking, its just that it is important to them to give a response that is of value. There is an old saying that goes “its better to keep your mouth shut and let them to think you stupid, then it is to open it and prove the point.” Being quick thinking and quick speaking can be appropriate at times and inappropriate at others.

Being quick thinking can be a symptom of nervousness. When we are under stress, for whatever cause, our body goes into a flight/fight response. It is preparing our body to take action. Our brain and our mind are equally as affected. A job interview scenario can evoke the same response. Our thinking speeds up, yet our mouth can’t match its speed. Nor should it.

It is an age old question … are you in charge of your mind or is your mind in charge of you? I think the answer is both. The trick is in learning different methods to control your mind. Currently, your mind is in charge of you. In responding to questions as experienced in a job interview, your mind is in control of you and it doesn’t appear to be working for you.

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My short answer is that being skilled in public speaking is the difference between a professional that has lots of ideas, that nobody gets to hear about and a professional that becomes a thought leader who is sought after to hear what they have to say.

A big part of being a professional is being able to share your ideas with others and persuade them to take action, based on your suggestions. It doesn’t matter what your profession is, they share common characteristics. One of the basic tenets of being a professional is giving back to the profession by adding to its body of knowledge or sharing one’s experience with others.

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There are at least two elements to this question: how can I write a speech & how can I write a speech about health and medicine?

As for advice on how to write a speech, I would expect there to be lots of answers to that here on Quora if you search for it, or Google the question for that matter.

As for how to write a speech on health & medicine, several factors come to play:

The speech should be entertaining, informative, persuasive, and inspiring. I don’t know how to combine them. do you have any topic that contain those four aspects?


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I’m going to take a different approach to my answer than others have taken. I don’t believe that you need suggestions from anyone for specific topics. The answer is already within you.


Think about who or whatever has inspired you personally throughout your life. What did you find interesting about them? What inspired you about them? Did you do any further research on them such as checking out Google? Was there anything special about what they have said or done that resonated with you? Did you talk to anyone else about this particular individual or subject?

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If you have read any of my responses to questions here on Quora, you will know that I tend to take a different approach to most if not all others.

You ask for advice for something else besides ‘just practicing’ to develop your extemporaneous speaking skills. To develop any skill, it is a matter of learning the theory behind the skill that you want to improve, then putting the lessons learned into practise. A step that is often missed is in receiving constructive feedback on how your practicing the skill went. The final step is integrating the advice from your feedback into your next practice session.

Monday, 10 October 2016 19:15

Do you ever fake laugh during conversation?

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Thanks for the A2A on the question “Do you ever fake laugh during conversation?”

I thought about this question for the good part of a day as it left me self-analyzing, do I or don’t I?

To the best of my knowledge, I do not. To do so would be inconsistent with my current base personality.

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