The following is an excerpt from Power Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly! written by Rae Stonehouse aka the “Shy Guy.”
As this is a book on networking for shy people, I’m assuming that you experience shyness to a certain degree. There isn’t a standard measurement that applies to everyone. We all experience it in a different way. What might intimidate me may not cause any distress to you at all.
For some people it is the large groups of people that cause their anxiety. For others, it can be the inevitable 1 to 1 conversation, where they fear that they may appear to be stupid.
For me, I find the approaching of somebody that I don’t know to be challenging. I would suspect that I have a deep-seated fear of rejection that triggers my anxiety. Yet, I have developed an advanced skill at public speaking, an area that many would find to be even more stressful.