Self Development (16)
This section includes articles related to personal development. As Rae has journeyed through life, he has learned a few things along the way. Many of them were learned the hard way.
Enjoy the articles and feel free to comment. Keep the discussion going.
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Despite the spate of affirmative responses to your question, I don’t think that anyone can give you a definitive yes or no answer.
On one hand, you have a mental illness. That does not define who you are, it is just something you happen to have. Mental illness is on a continuum. Some days it will have the better of you [or worse] and some days you will have the better.
Are there any good ways to tell if you’re just being paranoid or if someone genuinely doesn’t like you?
Written by Rae StonehouseAs originally answered on Quora.com ...
I think that ‘paranoia’ is a term that is bandied about a little too freely these days. It has become an everyday word to describe what is really a serious condition. People that are truly paranoid are not happy campers and they tend to create turmoil in the people in their lives.
My mind is always not clear, I keep repeating bad words in my head, I may yet say it publicly, what to do?
Written by Rae StonehouseAs originally answered on Quora.com ...
Recognizing that you have a persistent problem causing you anxiety, is a good first step. My short answer is to suggest that you seek help from a mental health professional. Family doctors are usually the gatekeeper to the healthcare system but unfortunately, many are not all that sympathetic when it comes to mental health issues. If you have a local mental health department I would suggest seeing if they have an Intake Worker or an Urgent Response person that looks after walk-ins from the community. Seeking professional opinion would help you determine if this is a serious problem requiring treatment.
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Thanks for the A2A on the question “Do you ever fake laugh during conversation?”
I thought about this question for the good part of a day as it left me self-analyzing, do I or don’t I?
To the best of my knowledge, I do not. To do so would be inconsistent with my current base personality.
How can people who are habitually treated as though they are inferior make things better for themselves?
Written by Rae StonehouseAs originally answered on Quora.com ...
For instance, are there some coping strategies that people use right at the time when other people are going after them?
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To start with, perhaps these individuals are habitually treated as being inferior because they are inferior.
I’ll let that statement sit there for a moment.
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How many, if any, people do you completely, 100% trust?
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Short answer: one. My wife of 38 years. Yet, at the same time, by some people’s standards, she is probably the person in the world that I should mistrust the most. She knows my deep dark secrets, even the ones I don’t know about. She knows my bad habits, even if I don’t think that they are all that bad. And she knows all the stupid mistakes I have made throughout my life, yes they were stupid!
How do I overcome the fear of being looked down upon by society, even if I don't want society expects?
Written by Rae StonehouseAs originally answered on Quora.com ...
There appears to be two parts to this question. The first part addressing fear, appears to be clear. The second part I’m not sure about. I’m going to interpret it as “even if I don’t want what society expects?”
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The question might be better asked as “how can I respond when someone praises me?”
A simple definition of praise comes from Merriam-Webster Dictionary is: to say or write good things about (someone or something) : to express approval of (someone or something): to express thanks to or love and respect for (God)
How can I stop feeding my ego?
Written by Rae StonehouseAs originally answered on Quora.com ...
This question doesn’t provide a lot of details which explains why the answers are all over the place.
My first question to you would be … “why would you want to?” Have you been told by someone that your ego is too big? Or perhaps you are full of yourself?
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Some advice makes me feel like a robot following their instructions to be human during conversations and suggested techniques to talk and gain confidence will just be rehearsed actions that isn't the real me. At the same time I feel like I don't have a personality so I'd gain one if I do change.
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Short answer to your question … yes, it most likely would, if the change you are referring to is only a cosmetic change to your personality i.e. a cover-up.
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This question is looking for a specific answer, however not having met you, I can only give you suggestions based on possible reasons. It will be up to you to determine which applies to you and what you want to do about it.
Looking at your statement logically, if people do not like you when you stand up for yourself, presumably they do like you at other times, including when you do not stand up for yourself.
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I have a word stuck in my head and I can’t get it out.
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The answers to your question are all over the place. I think that the suggestion that you were possessed by demons was even eluded to. I’m assuming that you are not into do-it-yourself exorcism.
Based on the limited amount of information provided in the question, I will not make any further assumptions, but will provide you with some professional advice.
How do I forgive my mother for hurting me repeatedly and doesn't think it was wrong?
Written by Rae StonehouseAs originally answered on Quora.com ...
I see two separate but interdependent issues here. You are asking how to forgive your mother. And you are commenting that she is hurting you repeatedly and doesn’t think it is wrong?
Let’s address the hurting you repeatedly aspect. Your question doesn’t indicate whether this behaviour of your mother’s towards you is currently happening or if it was sometime in the past. There is a difference. You can’t change the past but you can influence and change your present and your future as it unfolds.
Jumping ahead a bit, if your mother was hurting you in the past, then it is possible to forgive her. If she is hurting you in the present, it is not likely that you will be able to forgive her now. You will need to have some closure and/or discontinuation of her hurting behaviour before you can start the forgiveness process.
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Short answer: “No!”
Slightly longer answer: Life is too short to spend that much time forgiving the masses of people that have hurt me.
As we journey through life we are likely hurt by countless numbers of people. The fact that we have been hurt, doesn’t necessarily mean that the other individual actually meant to hurt us. Or perhaps they did!
Being hurt, is a subjective response on our part. We may not do in consciously, our subconscious mind does it automatically to protect our conscious mind.
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