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Rae Stonehouse

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 27+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the personal/professional self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books, paperbacks and on-line courses:


Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: How to Network Like a Pro

52 Power Networking Tips: 52 Power Networking Tips: How to Network Like a Pro

PROtect Yourself Now!PROtect Yourself Now! Violence Prevention for Healthcare Workers

The Savvy EmceeThe Savvy Emcee: How to be a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

You're Hired! Job Search Strategies That WorkYou're Hired! Job Search Strategies That Work: Available as an easily downloadable e-book or as an on-line e-course.

You're Hired! Resume Tactics:You're Hired! Resume Tactics: Job Search Strategies That Work

Job Interview PreparationJob Interview Preparation: Job Search Strategies That Work

Leveraging Your NetworkLeveraging Your Network: Job Search Strategies That Work

You're Hired! Power Tactics: You're Hired! Power Tactics: Job Search Strategies That Work

You're Hired! Job Searching Success Tips ListYou're Hired! Job Searching Success Tips List

Working With Words:Working With Words: Adding Life to Your Oral Presentations

Blow Your Own Horn! Blow Your Own Horn! Personal Branding for Business Professionals

Make it Safe!Make it Safe! A Family Caregiver's Home Safety Assessment Guide for Supporting Elders@Home


Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

Rae’s social … are you?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaeStonehousehttp://twitter.com/RaeStonehouse

Linkedin? Rae is http://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehousehttp://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehouse

Copyright 2018- 2021 Rae A. Stonehouse.

The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.


To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at https://raestonehouse.com.

First tip, don’t collect business cards.

A collection of business cards takes up room and doesn’t serve a purpose. Think quality over quantity.

"It's not what you know.. it's who you know". Is networking more important than education, as networking saves the long, learning process 'till later?

I would challenge your opening statement. I don’t believe that “It's not what you know.. it's who you know” to be true.

One can never truly know what the reason behind another’s behavior is.

My initial response would be ‘don’t over think it.’ Sharing business cards is a normal, acceptable practice in business networking sessions.

Short answer is ‘no’ we should not stop networking and ‘yes’ we should start building a community.

Long answer …

In my mind, one leads to the other. There can be no community without a network. Hermits aren’t known for being ‘people’ people.

The word ‘tribe’ is often used in articles on building one’s network. I believe the word to be interchangeable with that of ‘community.’

Sure, why not? There is no law or rule that says you can’t.

The one proviso is that you don’t want to confuse the person you are talking to.

I’m involved in a lot of different things. It’s not unusual for me to have five or more different business cards on my person at a business networking event.

I have a card for my main business, which would be the primary one that I would exchange. As I dig deeper in conversation, I have additional cards I can produce and pass on. This would include a couple other of my different business cards.

If I find someone is interested in getting more connections, I will ask them if they are a morning person. If they are, I will give a card inviting them to my breakfast referral marketing club.

If they do presentations and could use some polish, I will give them a card inviting them to my Toastmasters club.


Question originally answered on Quora.comQuora.com

I wouldn’t consider any of your suggestions as ‘best’ approaches to network as a job seeker, including your ‘besides leveraging existing comments’.

Your suggestions are all passive in nature. As a job-seeker, you really do need to get out there and market yourself via business networking i.e. face to face, belly to belly as the saying goes.

I evaluate every invitation that I get to connect. The first criteria I look for is ‘do I actually know the person?’

If not, the second criteria is ‘are they connected to one of my connections?’

Failing those two, I look to see if we share any common interests.

Networking No NosHere is an article I wrote a few years back in writing my book. Enjoy!

Throughout my publications I have provided tips & techniques to help improve your networking effectiveness. I thought it would be interesting and perhaps entertaining to take a look at the subject from a different perspective i.e. what you really shouldn't do.

These aren't provided in any order of priority. See if you recognize any of them from your adventures in networking land.

Here is a tongue-in-cheek article I wrote a few years back on things you shouldn’t due when networking.


Is Your Net Working? Top 15 Networking No-No’s

Throughout my book and my other publications I have provided tips & techniques to help improve your networking effectiveness. I thought it would be interesting and perhaps entertaining to take a look at the subject from a different perspective i.e. what you really shouldn’t do.

I’m going to take a contrary position and say that it isn’t, in my opinion.

Good friendships develop over a period of time, based on many factors. Bill Doerr provided some excellent factors that foster development of a friendship i.e. trust, reciprocity, longevity, fragility and maintenance.

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