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Monday, 16 March 2015 04:26

Five Pearls of Wisdom

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Five Pearls of Wisdom by Rae Stonehouse, Okanagan-based Author, Speaker, Speech/Presentations Coach, Power Networker & Toastmaster Extraordinaire.

Today’s inspiration for editorial comes from a posting to Facebook from a colleague, Darren Jacklin. 

These are five good points that beg for expanding upon. [at least in my mind]

  1. Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality.

The funny thing about reality is that it doesn’t really exist. Your reality, or more precisely how you see and interact with the world, is different than mine. Neither of us are right, yet both of us are. If you are a LOA (Law of Attraction) believer you will know that we actually create our own reality.

It is a given fact that we will not always get along with everybody in the world, nor will some of them even like us. While it might hurt to think about that, the pragmatists of us would say “get over it” or “suck it up buttercup!” While not necessarily the most understanding and supportive approach it can be helpful in minimizing the potential hazard to our egos.

We can only control what we believe about ourselves, not whatever anyone else does. So forget about it! Move on!

  1. Never let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life. 

Year’s ago I learned a saying, the hard way I might add “Sometimes you are the dog … sometimes you are the fire hydrant.” Bad things do to happen to good people. Yes, sometimes we or any of our friends, can get in a state that it seems that day after day are worse than the one before, a negative funk if you will. People experiencing the symptoms of clinical depression often have problems with this type of thinking. Depression aside, as Sig Sigler would say its “stinkin thinkin!” We are in control of our minds and this type of “generalization” thinking does us no good. So stop it!

  1. It’s never too late to be what you might have been.

I can’t help but think of the Lumberjack skit from classic Monty Python where the BARBER says
“I wanted to be... a lumberjack!”

“Leaping from tree to tree, as they float down the mighty rivers of British Columbia. The Giant Redwood. The Larch. The Fir! The mighty Scots Pine! The lofty flowering Cherry! The plucky little Apsen! The limping Roo tree of Nigeria. The towering Wattle of Aldershot! The Maidenhead Weeping Water Plant! The naughty Leicestershire Flashing Oak! The flatulent Elm of West Ruislip! The Quercus Maximus Bamber Gascoigni! The Epigillus! The Barter Hughius Greenus!”

“With my best buddy by my side, we'd sing! Sing! Sing!”

“I'm a lumberjack, and I'm okay.
I sleep all night and I work all day.”

Okay, now that’s out of the way, I actually did want to be a lumberjack when I was in high school. More precisely, a Forest Ranger. Then an Interpreter at the UN, closely followed by becoming a Chef. I spent the next few decades as a Registered Nurse. As the saying goes “I’m still not sure what I want to be when I grow up.” Statistically, Canadians change their careers several times during their working years and now under our current reality, long into so-called retirement. Many people go back to school in retirement or pursue their passions. You don’t have to wait until retirement to do so. Today is a good day to start working on what it is you want to do. What can you do today?

  1. If opportunity doesn’t knock, build a door.

This saying might have originated in a vocational carpentry skill-training school but has been adapted by the motivationally inclined crowd as of late. There is another saying that I am fond of that goes “sometimes opportunity is described as hard work.” Perhaps you have an idea that’s time has come but there doesn’t seem to be a market for it. Sometimes you have to seek out opportunities … other times it finds you. I believe that getting out there and networking with like-minded, business-minded people can be a powerful way to create or learn about opportunities, building the door to opportunity if you will.

  1. Begin each day with a grateful heart.

As the saying goes “Every day above ground is a good one!” and “It’s better than the alternative!” Okay, those are a little on the cynical side. If you are an LOA fan and buy into the creating your own reality belief, than beginning your day with a grateful heart should resonate with you. It can be far too easy to think and be effected by the negative things in life. The same works for thinking about positive and empowering beliefs. “Whether you think you can or you think you can’t … you are right!”


Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 27+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the personal/professional self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books, paperbacks and on-line courses:


Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: How to Network Like a Pro

52 Power Networking Tips: 52 Power Networking Tips: How to Network Like a Pro

PROtect Yourself Now!PROtect Yourself Now! Violence Prevention for Healthcare Workers

The Savvy EmceeThe Savvy Emcee: How to be a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

You're Hired! Job Search Strategies That WorkYou're Hired! Job Search Strategies That Work: Available as an easily downloadable e-book or as an on-line e-course.

You're Hired! Resume Tactics:You're Hired! Resume Tactics: Job Search Strategies That Work

Job Interview PreparationJob Interview Preparation: Job Search Strategies That Work

Leveraging Your NetworkLeveraging Your Network: Job Search Strategies That Work

You're Hired! Power Tactics: You're Hired! Power Tactics: Job Search Strategies That Work

You're Hired! Job Searching Success Tips ListYou're Hired! Job Searching Success Tips List

Working With Words:Working With Words: Adding Life to Your Oral Presentations

Blow Your Own Horn! Blow Your Own Horn! Personal Branding for Business Professionals

Make it Safe!Make it Safe! A Family Caregiver's Home Safety Assessment Guide for Supporting Elders@Home


Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

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