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Once upon a time Rae was quite uncomforable with business networking sessions, so he did extensive research on the subject and wrote an e-book (available for immediate download) Power Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!.

This section features sage advice on power networking and are included in his e-book. 

Enjoy the articles and feel free to comment. Keep the discussion going!

This question raises subjective responses.

From my perspective, of those business professionals that I know, I would say that they don’t.

A comprehensive answer requires exploration of the terms ‘good’ and ‘networking.’ And ‘business professionals’ for that matter.

Monday, 28 May 2018 02:59

Can you do too much networking?

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This question appears to be looking for a definitive answer, where only subjective responses will be provided.

If one defines ‘networking’ as the face-to-face or online interaction with another person, for business purposes and they spend all their time meeting people, at the expense of doing other activities involved in running a business, then perhaps you can do too much networking.

I don’t believe that there is a rule that says you are not allowed to network on Facebook. If anything, it is likely being said in the context that Linkedin is much better for networking.

My first suggestion would be to take the word ‘college’ out of the equation. You may be currently attending college, but that is only one aspect of the potential network you have to connect with.

Don’t discount the value of networking with family, friends, neighbours, businesses and community resources that you frequent. Potential connections are all around us if we keep our eyes open to opportunity.

One of the challenges that I see with networking in colleges, universities etc. is that many of the students don’t see the value of networking. They may not have any experience in the art of networking or they may be just too focussed on their studies.

This may mean that one of your first tasks in networking would be to educate the other person on the value and benefits of networking.

There are several skills involved in networking with professionals. One of them is to have your ‘spidey sense’ on high alert to potential people to connect with.

Combining your awareness with a tool such as Linkedin to organize can help build your network of connections. If you haven’t already, create a professional profile on Linkedin. This isn’t like a Facebook presence, so avoid any partying pics that you would regret posting.

After you meet someone at a social mixer of some sort, follow up with them by sending them an invite to join your professional network on Linkedin and in the real world.

Speaking of social mixers, I would suggest researching what clubs or social groups exist within the college structure that would provide you opportunity to socialize and network. Clubs like Toastmasters can be a great way to hone your speaking skills, build your self-confidence and network with like-minded individuals.

Don’t rule out connecting with your instructors/professors.

I go into quite a bit more detail in a downloadable e-book that I wrote. Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy PeopleTips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!outlines a strategy for effective networking whether you are shy or not.

Good luck with building your network!

Question originally answered on Quora.com

27 or 67, it doesn’t really matter, the same principals and strategies apply when it comes to networking.

You ask what the best way to network ‘when you don’t know many people.’ You have identified the gist of the problem i.e. you don’t know many people. The short and simplistic answer to would be to get to know more people.

Everybody has to start from somewhere. The purpose of networking is to expand your reach of connections. Its not just a matter of meeting someone and adding them to your list of people you know, it’s a matter of connecting with them. Connecting takes place when you spend some time getting to know the other person, learning what their interests in life are and seeing if you have any common interests. Once you do that, the next step is likely to be of service to your connection. Doing so helps cement the connection.

So how do you get to meet these people? On-line, via social media is one way but the best way is face to face. Belly to belly as some of my business colleagues would say.

I would suggest looking for events in your community that interest you and would likely be attractive to individuals that you want to connect with. Check out http://meetup.comhttp://meetup.com and http://eventbrite.comhttp://eventbrite.com to see if there are any events in your area that you can attend.

A few years ago I decided to do something about increasing my networking and increasing my connections. It resulted in me writing a book on the strategies that I created and tried out. I would recommend it to you. Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy PeopleTips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly! outlines strategies that will help you develop your network. It’s available as a downloadable e-book.

Linkedin is a powerful tool for building your network. It is described in length in the book.

Good luck with your networking and building your connections.


Question was originally answered at Quora.com

Your question doesn’t tell us what part of the world you hale from.

The challenge in looking for ‘very good, pure business networking events’, is that it can be subjective at best.

Simply answered, the best business networking professionals are those that network professionally.

Being an effective business networker involves quite a few of what might be considered soft skills. Good conversation skills, empathy, listening skills and a genuine interest to help others are a few that readily come to mind.

You present an interesting scenario, likely experienced by more people than you can imagine.

Having never met you and only knowing what you have posted here, I am making a lot of assumptions but as I said above, you share common problems with others.

If you are bragging when you are networking, you aren’t doing it right.

If you are not self-promoting when networking … you aren’t doing it right either.

What are some pointers on selling yourself to people?


This is a subject close to my heart as I am currently creating an on-line course to address this very issue. There are 21 lessons under development, so providing a condensed answer here on Quora is a little challenging.