Okanagan Panorama

Monday, 28 May 2018 03:09

What are your most effective conversation openers in networking situations?

Written by

Effective? The risk is in not coming off like you’re using a pick-up line.

I tend to use situational comments.

I’m not adverse to using “come here often?” It can elicit a chuckle or two and open the door to conversation.


“Is this your first time here?”

“Have you ever heard this fellow/woman speak before?”

“I don’t think we’ve ever met. I’m Rae. Ray of sunshine!” also good for a laugh … sometimes.

“Gee, this weather sure sucks!”

I’m not so sure the conversational opener is the most important part. Perhaps the follow-up question to whatever their response is more important. You would want to go with an open-ended follow-up question to get them talking.

In my book Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly! I describe having a Questions Toolbox. The idea is that you prepare in advance for questions that can move a conversation forward. It also prepares you for questions that you don’t want to answer.

Most people like to talk about themselves and their business. And they can easily resonate with you if you are a good listener.

I enjoy a good conversation. Even though my default mode is a shy, introvert, I’m far more outgoing than most people. I find that if I take the lead in the conversation it usually goes well, as I have training in communications.

Thanks for your question.

Question originally answered at Quora.com

Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

You're Hired! Job Search Strategies That Work: Available as an easily downloadable e-book or as an on-line e-course. 

Phone Rae 250-451-6564 or info@raestonehouse.com

Rae’s social … are you?

Twitter: http://twitter.com/RaeStonehousehttp://twitter.com/RaeStonehouse

Linkedin? Rae is http://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehousehttp://www.linkedin.com/in/raestonehouse

Copyright 2018 Rae Stonehouse. The above document may be freely copied and distributed as long as the author’s name and contact info remain attached.


To learn more about Rae A. Stonehouse, visit the Wonderful World of Rae Stonehouse at http://raestonehouse.comhttp://raestonehouse.com.