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What is the best way you have discovered to network and share your business face-to-face with people as an introvert?

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This question appears to have been kicking around for a while. On January 9, 2015 the author added the following comment: “Good point. I guess I should have asked, "What is the best way to network when you hate networking with a passion." I am great one-on-one and I really enjoy public speaking and performing in front of a large group of people. I just don't like networking. I would like to get better at it and wondered if anyone had any tips they could share.”

Seeing that there hasn’t been any follow-up answers, I have a few to add. Just because one is an introvert doesn’t necessarily mean that one is shy. There are many outgoing introverts. Introversion merely means where you get your energy from. There also shy extroverts.

It can also be argued that one is born as either an introvert or an extravert. You are not likely to change that through your life. We are not born shy, nor are we born self-confident. Depending on your life experiences you can become more self-confident and socially outgoing. Given unfavourable circumstances, one who has been self-confident can lose their self-confidence and become socially insecure i.e. shy.

The additional comment removes the introversion factor out of the way and cuts to the chase, so to speak. Shyness!

I have faced a similar situation over the years. I am confident in 1 to 1 situations (I work as a mental health therapist). I was terrified of public speaking and over 20 years or so have become proficient at it. I regularly speak in public, offering seminars, chairing meetings, delivering speeches & presentations.

Being entrepreneurial in spirit I have tried several business ventures that have required me to get out in the public and network. I was very uncomfortable doing so. I am sure I could easily come up with a dozen or so excuses to get out of a large-sized networking group or the typical meet & greet type of event.

I decided to do something about it so I researched and wrote a book entitled Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly! In it I outlined a system that I created to level the networking playing field for shy people. Even those that wouldn’t call themselves shy can benefit from the strategies.

One of the reasons that we are shy is that we don’t have specific skills to use in social interactions, that others seem to have. They weren’t born with them, they developed them. My book outlines techniques to reduce the uncertainties that we experience when we network.

Break your networking down into smaller chunks. When attending a large networking event, think quality over quantity. Plan on meeting 4 or 5 people, rather than scores of them and spend your time productively with each of these ones you meet. That doesn’t mean monopolizing their time. See if you can make arrangements with them to set up a time for a coffee chat.

Research these individuals on-line before you meet them. This will give you an idea of their backgrounds and help you see if you have areas of common interest.

One area that we shy people have in common is that we often don’t know what to say when we are in social situations. Yet the irony is that many of us enjoy speaking one to one. It is a matter of taking the skills that you have in one area and applying them to another.

The original question/comments states “I hate networking with a passion.” Passion is good, however it isn’t helping you in this situation. If you want to share your business face-to-face, then there likely isn’t any other way to do so. I would be interested in exploring the reason behind your passion. Is it fear? Is it disdain over the way networking events are run? Do you find networking events to be boring, scary or perhaps purposeless?

Somehow, to move forward you will need to overcome your passion against networking and reverse it so that you learn to relish and enjoy them. Good luck with that. I continue to challenge myself with the same thing.

Thanks for your question!

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Rae Stonehouse

Author Bio:

Rae A. Stonehouse is a Canadian born author & speaker. His professional career as a Registered Nurse working predominantly in psychiatry/mental health, has spanned four decades.

Rae has embraced the principal of CANI (Constant and Never-ending Improvement) as promoted by thought leaders such as Tony Robbins and brings that philosophy to each of his publications and presentations.

Rae has dedicated the latter segment of his journey through life to overcoming his personal inhibitions. As a 20+ year member of Toastmasters International he has systematically built his self-confidence and communicating ability. He is passionate about sharing his lessons with his readers and listeners. His publications thus far are of the self-help, self-improvement genre and systematically offer valuable sage advice on a specific topic.

His writing style can be described as being conversational. As an author Rae strives to have a one-to-one conversation with each of his readers, very much like having your own personal self-development coach. Rae is known for having a wry sense of humour that features in his publications.


Author of Self-Help Downloadable E-Books:

Power Networking for Shy PeoplePower Networking for Shy People: Tips & Techniques for Moving from Shy to Sly!

PROtect Yourself!PROtect Yourself! Empowering Tips & Techniques for Personal Safety: A Practical Violence Prevention Manual for Healthcare Workers.

E=Emcee SquaredE=Emcee SquaredTips & Techniques to Becoming a Dynamic Master of Ceremonies.

Power of PromotionPower of Promotion: On-line Marketing for Toastmasters Club Growth

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